Monday, July 5, 2010

3 mistakes of my life....

I saw this book on the stands in Landmark yesterday, but hubby did not let me buy it since I had already bought one yesterday. (Love Story –Erich Segal) But the title intrigued him and he asked me about the three mistakes of MY life. I answered him on the spot 1. Sri, 2. Smruthi, 3. Swathi – the 3 mistakes.

There have been many times when I see a couple in the beach or a pair in Spencer’s, I used to wonder about my good old pre-parenting days. (Before the kids, I used to wonder about my pre-marriage days…that’s a different story) There are so many couples in today’s world, who postpone their decision of becoming a parent owing to their career, owing to this or owing to that. Why didn’t I belong to that category? Life would have been so much more blissful. There are still some who are totally against the idea of becoming a parent. They don’t want to get committed.

Becoming a parent comes with its own pros and cons. The first hit is for the husband-wife relationship. There is absolutely no time for the spouse. If it’s a working mom, then that’s all and if the mom is in IT field, then gone!! No time even for the kids – let alone the poor husband. The second hit is for the self. All the interests and hobbies, favourite movies, everything vanishes.

Having said this, if given a choice to go back in time and change my decision of having kids, would I? Definitely Not.

Kids of today can give you about a 1000 reasons to make you think of your pre-parenting days – to wish that you could have enjoyed that “couple-only” mode a little longer. But taking a decision not to have a child will give you even extra 1000 reasons to remind you that you might have been wrong. All the Tom, Dick, Harry and Harry’s relatives, friend’s friend in the world will advice you against your decision of not having a kid. But if you decide to become a parent, you will never regret it. All your world revolves only around your kid. Whatever you see, and whatever you do, you think of only your kids. Even when you spend time alone with your spouse without your kids, you talk only about them. Whenever you see a kid suffering, you pray that it should not happen to your child. You become totally committed to your kids, even if you didn’t want to become committed. You undergo this transformation without realising it. The bonding created is invisible, yet so strong, that there is no going back and you DON’T want to go back. The gummy smile which your kid gives ONLY for you, and the hug with all its warmth is worth everything else in the world.

Moral of the story – Have kids! Increase the population!!!

PS – If you don’t agree with my points, replace all the “you”s with “I / me”s in the above blog.

1 comment:

  1. I don't completely disagree with your blog- but the fact remains that life with just partner is never possible after having kids. It becomes an irreversible thing in life. Hence it is extremly important to weigh options in life to understand when is the best time to have kids, or whether they are required in life itself or not! Worst thing would be to have a child & not be able to provide properly - Time, Money, Good Education...... A very very tough job! Is it even required to take up such a commitment which can never ever be reversed?